I stayed in a job I hated because I didn’t think I could do any better. I didn’t know that each day I was there my confidence and esteem were draining away. I didn’t know that I could enjoy my job.
One of my biggest fears was the money. I feared I wouldn’t find a job I like making the money I was. Another fear I had was I would end up in another job that turned out to be as bad as the one I was in. And finally, I worried that I wouldn’t be able to find another job.
Since I thought I was unable to leave, I hoped the situation would improve. But I didn’t know that my fate was up to me. I had to either speak up or leave. I waited in silence getting more and more frustrated and stressed. Finally, my body made the decision for me.
My body had had enough and it let me know it. The stomach upsets and headaches became unbearable. Now I knew it was time to go. So I quit. My health was more important than my concerns about another job. It was more important than the money or finding a job that I would love.
Something amazing happened. I not only started feeling better, but I felt happier. Sundays were enjoyable because I was dreading Monday morning. No more feeling like I wanted to cry on the way to work. And I learned something important. I will never stay in a job I hate. Life is too short and I have options.
Not only will I not stay in a job I hate, I won’t let anyone else. It has become my mission to help people find jobs they love and get paid what they are worth. No one has to be miserable because of a job.
You can deal with anything if you have your health. Everyone has bad days at work but when every day is a bad day and your job starts interfering with your life and health, staying isn’t the best option. Your body will only take so much stress then it will say enough. I was lucky; nothing serious resulted from staying in a job I hated. Others are not so lucky; severe and/or life-threatening illnesses can result.
I learned a valuable lesson. I am more important than any job and YOU are too.
How can I help you in your job search?
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4 Comments to "Why I Stayed in a Job I Hated"
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I love this post! I am currently in a position in which I hate and am starting to have melt downs every other day. It doesn’t help that I feel inadequate to even speak to my supervisor, she just makes me feel that way. My job is boring and redundant. I file all day, 5 days a week. Same thing, day after day. I am in a windowless room, no computer, no contact with other employees – well very little. And I am not asked to do side jobs for my supervisor because I don’t have a computer. Every day I pray for me either to not wake up or for the company to go bankrupt and I know that won’t happen. I am truly, truly unhappy in my job, but I need it to pay the bills. I am trying to go back to school perhaps this fall (in a couple of weeks) to get an AAS in Admin. Assistanting. I try to look at least 3 days a week in my job search but because of my lack of experience in one thing or another, I have to settle for the entry level jobs that no one else wants. The pay is pennies and I am barely making it through the week. If you see my email Arleen, you can email me and we can talk. Thanks for posting this.
Hi Mary, I feel your pain. Being in a terrible job brings everything in your life down. You are smart in trying to get out. I am having a FREE webinar called: Hate Your Job, But Need the Money? Learn the Proven Formula that Will Get You Into a Job and a Paycheck You Will Love! You can find out more and register here: http://webinarjam.net/webinar/go/12195/5e01b35d62 I think you will learn quite a bit from it.
Please stop wishing that you won’t wake up, it’s a permanent solution to a problem that can be only temporary. You have value and there is a company that will see it.
I am there with you! I just put in my 2 weeks notice…..going to a job with a little less pay, but more FREEDOM and ability to manage my own schedule and BE TREATED LIKE A PROFESSIONAL!!
Congratulations!! Best wishes for every success in your new job!