What Baby Boomers Want Younger Interviews to Know

Ambro  interviewing an older personIn my post Checklist for Getting a Job When You are Over 50, someone commented they would like to see a “companion piece where you explain to 30-something hiring managers how to treat 50-plus year old talent with a bit of respect, instead of making them dance.”  I responded to the person that I would address the issue.

Dear Hiring Manager,  I am older than you.  I know that and so do you.  Let’s get that out-of-the-way up front.  I have the qualifications you are looking for.  I am willing to accept the salary your company is offering.  I want to be treated like anyone else you are interviewing for the position.  Age is only a number.  My health is great.  I take of myself physically, mentally and spiritually. 

But what I want you to know is that I understand you have some reservations about hiring me.  Here are some of the issues you are concerned about.

1—I want your job—No I don’t.  I have been there and done that.  I want work/life balance.  I traveled, worked overtime, and crazy hours.  I realize now that it isn’t conducive to a healthy life and relationships.  I want to work hard and be a contributing member to your group when I am at work, but I want to have a home life. 

2—Not willing to learn—I have forgotten more than you have learned.  I typed my first resume on a typewriter.  The résumé you have in your hand was done on a computer.  I am proficient at computer use.  I can play games on the computer, but usually don’t.  I can find anything you want on the Internet and use it for email.  I learned arithmetic without a calculator.  My generation is the bridge generation from no technology to what we have today.  We learned it as it was developing.   

3—Can’t work with younger people—Don’t worry I know I’m not your parent or grandparent.  I am here to do the job.  The job you tell me you want me to do.  I have worked with people with all sorts of personalities.  I liked some and others not so much.  But I respect authority.  It was something I learned as a child.  It didn’t matter who the person was if they were subject to my respect they got it.  Don’t make me not respect you as a manager.

4—Ready to retire—Retirement is closer for me than it is for you.  It’s about the numbers.  I am older than you are.  I plan on working a while longer.  I have just finished paying off my children’s tuition and my mortgage.  Now I have to build up my IRA.  I have a history of working for companies for long periods of time.  Where do you plan to be in five years?   

5—People hire people like them—Don’t worry I am like you.  I like doing my job to the best of my ability.  I believe in the product/service we are working on.  I value my job.  But you are correct; I have different life experiences and expectations.  I enjoy a variety of activities, hobbies and interests they may not be what you are interested in, but I respect your enjoyments.  I’m interviewing to work for you, not to be your best friend. 

Thank you young hiring manager for taking the time to read this far.   I’m interested in working for you and your company because there are still a few good years left in this old body and brain.  The position is one I am interested in and can do.  My résumé will show you how my qualifications and experience match the requirements of the job. 

Sincerely,

Baby Boomer Job Searcher

 

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How to Reduce Interview Stress

woman at interview

Interviews cause stress.  Stress is one of the first words that comes to mind when you hear the word interview.  It’s natural and normal to feel stress during an interview.  It is something you want and/or need, but you don’t have control over who gets hired.  You can only control your knowledge, appearance and demeanor.  You and everyone else facing an interview are stressed by it.

But not everyone knows how to reduce it by breathing.  Not just any breathing, but diaphragmatic breathing or belly breathing.   There is a remarkable relationship between how you breathe and the stress you feel.  Put breathing from your diaphragm into your preparations to ace interviews.

The Benefits

When you breathe from your diaphragm, you use your entire lung. The increased lung function makes the oxygen/carbon dioxide exchange more efficient which provides more oxygen to your blood.  The results of more oxygen in your blood will:

  • Relax tense muscles
  • Reduce stress
  • Lower blood pressure
  • Clearer thinking
  • Lower heart rate

The Problem

When you take fast, shallow breaths from your chest, you reduce the oxygen levels in your blood.  This can cause some unpleasant symptoms such as:

  • Dizziness
  • Muscle tension
  • Depression/anxiety
  • High blood pressure
  • Confusion
  • Rapid heart rate

If these symptoms look familiar, they are.  These also happen to be the same things you feel when you interview.  However, these signs can be reduced significantly by breathing from your belly or diaphragm.

Back In the Day

You used to breathe deep down in your abdomen.  Everyone did.  As newborns, you breathed from the belly naturally.  You may even breathe like that during your sleep.  Somehow, you began breathing from your chest.  Perhaps it was because you were told to stand up straight with your chest out and stomach in.  This position constricted your abdominal muscles then reduced the depth of your breathing.  Tight clothing does the same thing as does slouching when you sit.

But you can relearn to breathe from your diaphragm.  In few minutes a day, you can learn and practice breathing to increase your physical and mental wellbeing.  It may feel awkward at first, but with continued practice, you can change your breathing at will.  You will be able to stop stress in its tracks.

Learn How To Breathe

To begin, first find a place where you won’t be interrupted.  You can either sit down with your feet on the ground or lay down on the floor.

  1. Place one hand on your chest and the other hand on your stomach.
  2. Close your eyes as you breathe slowly through your nose.  Inhale the air all the way past your lungs and down into your abdomen.  You should feel the hand on your stomach rise, while the hand on your chest stays where it is.
  3. Concentrate where you want the air to go.
  4. Breathe out slowly through your nose.
  5. Keep breathing this way for a few minutes.
  6. Increase the amount of time each day.
  7. Don’t rush and take slow even breaths.
  8. Practice, practice, practice

Practice while waiting for a traffic light.  Practice as you are falling asleep.  Practice while reading.  Practice while watching a movie or TV.  Practice while preparing for an interview. Practice anywhere and anytime you want.  Just practice.

You need to practice so that when you have an interview, you will be ready to become relaxed and ready for anything.  If you reduce your stress, you increase your interview performance.  And your chances for a job offer.

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The difference between reality and your dream is action

 

The results of these questions will impact your life.

The results of these questions will impact your life.

I’ve been in your shoes.  You dream of the day when you can tell your boss that you are through, done, finished.  I agonized over the decision.  It took some soul searching and lots of courage.  In my last post, I talked about what needs to be done when you want to change your job.  But in this post, I want to give you some questions to answer to help you make the decision.

  1. Have a conversation with your spouse/partner.  This is number 1 because the decision will impact not only you, but your family, as well.  Discuss your feelings about your current job and why you want to change. 
  2. Are you changing careers or companies?  Is it the work you do that has you wanting to leave?  Or is the company that frustrates you?  If is the work, are there openings in other departments? 
  3. What changes are you trying to make?  Is it more money you are after? More responsibility or less?  Are you looking to shorten your commute? 
  4. What has happened in your life to need a change?  Had a baby?  Are you now an empty nester?  Do you need to cut back your hours or need to work more hours? 
  5. What do you really love doing?  Do you need more education or experience?  What would you do for free if you could?  Is it something you can do and be paid for it? 
  6. What are your values?  Has sustainability become important to you and you want to work for a “greener” company?  Has your company asked you do things that are illegal or unethical?  Do you still believe in the values your company holds?
  7. Is it really the job or is there something else bothering you?  How is your home situation?  Are you well?  Do you have any unresolved issues?

Of course, this list is only a few questions you should be asking yourself.  But I think you get it.  The decision to change jobs isn’t one that should be made lightly in this economy.  Having a strong sense of what you want and don’t want will help you immensely. 

Walt Disney said, “All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.”  These questions will take courage to answer honestly.  More courage will be needed to take action on your decision.  But you can do it.  You have a dream worth living.

 

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Checklist for Getting a Job When You are Over 50

Checklist for job search success when you are over 50

Checklist for job search success when you are over 50

There are many things you have to remember in your job search. But I think the most important thing you have to remember is that your age doesn’t have to hold you back.  In fact, there are ways you can use your age as an asset.

With some simple tweaks to your job search, you will be able to show the hiring manager that you are the right one for the job.  You can make the hiring manager not even consider your age by emphasizing what you bring to the company. 

Here are a few ways you can make your age a non-issue.

  •  Age-proof your résumé—Removing dates from your résumé will only send up red flags.  But there are better ways to age-proof your résumé.  Fill it with honors and awards that show how you do your job better than anyone.  Use percentages and dollars to show how you have saved the company time and money, and made the company money.  Instead of listing the duties that you have done in the past, use PAR stories to prove your claims.    
  • You are as young as you feel—Taking care of you is vital.  Your health shouldn’t give your age away.  Exercise and do yoga or other stretching activities will keep you looking fit.  Yoga is especially good for keeping you flexible and able to move without showing signs of pain.  If you have health issues, follow the recommendations of your doctors.  Take your medication properly and on time.  Follow a diet that is healthy.  Get the amount of sleep that you need.
  • Age is just a number—Dress for your age but stay current.  Dressing younger isn’t dressing like teeny boppers. It means your clothes fit you properly, are clean, and in style today-not when you bought them 15 years ago.   Your hair needs to be flattering for you.  Keep it well maintained.  If you color your hair, take care of your roots.  You don’t have to color your hair if you have a style that is stylish and looks good on you.  If you glasses have huge frames and have little initials in the corner, it’s time to change them.
  • Stay up-to-date—Nothing says old like not knowing what an iPad is or an mp3 player.  You don’t have to go out and buy the latest technology, but talk to a teenager and learn what is available today.  Know what social media is and what it does, again a teenage will be a good resource.  Keep your skills updated.  Are there newer versions of programs you have used?  What are the changes?  Find out what the cloud means.   
  • Attitude—Be positive and confident you can do the job.  Be engaging and enthused about the opportunity.  Show you are forward thinking and not stuck in the past.  Saying things like, “in my day, we did it this way” won’t get you hired.  Let them know you are open to learning new things. 

Use your age to convince the hiring manager you the right person for the job.  Because of you skills and abilities you know what you are doing, and you are capable of learning.  If your first resume was typed on a typewriter and you are reading this on your computer, you have come a long way.  Don’t hate your age, celebrate it.  You have the skills the company needs.  Let your skills overshadow your age, and you will be hired.

 

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Are you this passionate about your career?

happy mathematician

happy mathematician

Ignoring your passion is slow suicide.  Never ignore what your heart pumps for.  Mold your career around your lifestyle, not your lifestyle around your career. – Unknown

WOW! What a statement.  How many of us did that?  I can tell you not many from the responses I have got from people who are unhappy at their jobs.  But I do know one person who is living his passion–my husband, Mike Bradley.

My husband is mathematically inclined, to say the least.  My husband’s name is Mike and holds a Ph.D. in Mathematics from the University of Notre Dame.  He loves math and everything about it.  He sees math in everything.

He always did well in math in elementary school and high school.  Mike chose to major in mathematics during his undergraduate studies; there was no question about it.  He thrived in the numbers, formulas and equations that leave me dazed and confused.  He always did exceptionally well.  Mike never knew you get anything less than an A on a math test; it was all there was to him.

Mike’s next step was to enter a graduate program in Mathematics.  Here came the challenge.  In his first year, he was surrounded by people who had been better prepared, had more courses and were ahead of him in class.  Mike found himself in new territory.  He soon found out there were other letters that you could get on math tests. 

He started wondering if he had made the right decision.  He questioned his ability, maybe he had peaked in college.  But by talking to his former professors from his undergrad college, he learned that the first year of grad school was a melting pot.  Everyone arrived in different levels of knowledge that would soon be evened out as the studies progressed.  So Mike stuck it out and found the professors were right.

Mike is a professor of Mathematics at Merrimack College in North Andover, Massachusetts.  It is a small, Catholic liberal arts college in New England.  It’s his undergraduate college.  He loves teaching math and being surrounded by math all day long.  Ask him a question about math, and be ready for the long answer.  Tell him you were never good at math or don’t like it, and watch him cringe.

My husband is the only person I know who literally pops out of bed eager to start doing his job:  Math.  Whether it’s teaching it, writing about it or just seeing it all around him, he loves math and everything about it.  His passion is math and lives it every day.  He loved math and chose a profession where he could be involved with every aspect of it. 

When our children were young and playing basketball, baseball and softball, Mike wanted to help coach.  He ended up “doing the book”.   He loved it.  All those numbers to turn into statistics was his dream come true.  The children and their teammates learned about their at bat percentages, free throw percentages and all the rest.    Mike said he did it for the kids, but I know he just likes playing with the numbers. 

Mike molded his life around his love for one subject.  It’s his career, his hobby, and life.  Are you living your passion?

 

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