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Over stressed is good for your job search.

Over stressed is good for your job search.

People are remarkably bad at remembering long lists of goals. I learned this at a professional level when trying to get my high-performance coaching clients to stay on track; the longer their lists of to-dos and goals, the more overwhelmed and off-track they got. Clarity comes with simplicity.”  Brendon Burchard

 I came across this quote the same day I heard a client repeat she was overwhelmed with her job search.  Her overwhelm caused her to “play” at her job search.  She would do something, get frustrated and stop.  Then pick it up in another day or two and the same thing would happen.  This is typical of job search overwhelm.

 Many job searchers become overwhelmed in their job search, and it’s understandable.  It is especially true if someone starts a job search after being employed for a several years and has to start from scratch.  They believe all you need is a résumé and a newspaper.  Quickly they learn the truth.  Today’s job search includes a LinkedIn profile, constant tweaks to the résumé, networking, social media, company research, internet searches,  elevator speech, and interview preparation.

 To overcome job search overwhelm, simplify your job search.  No, I haven’t lost it.  But there are many ways to break down the job search into small, bite-size tasks.  Let’s look at a few.

  •  Instead of spending hours of job boards and company websites, set up Google Alerts of the jobs you are interested, openings in targeted companies.  Let the information come to you instead of spending hours of looking online.
  •  Create a basic resume for the job you are looking for.  Look at several job descriptions for what is similar and use that information for your résumé.  When you find a job, you want to apply for, tweak it to incorporate the keywords found in the job ad.  Also, modify it to match this particular job.
  •  Spend a little time each day writing your SOAR, CAR, PAR, SMART stories.  These stories represent a problem you faced on the job, the action YOU took to resolve it, and the results of YOUR action.  Write one or two a day and you will have plenty by the time you interview.
  •  If you participate in social media, use something like Hootesuite to post.  One post can be sent to several social media accounts.  You can set up recurring posts at the same time. 
  •  Practice your interview answers a few at a time.  You can do this while driving, waiting for something/someone, or dedicate a few minutes each day.
  •  Large tasks can be broken down into smaller more manageable units instead of sitting down and tackling the task in one shot.  Use reverse engineering to see what you need, and what needs to be done. 
  •  Make a plan for you day and follow it.  Don’t let any one task dominate the entire day.  Mix it up to keep you from becoming too frustrated. 
  •  Multitasking doesn’t work.  It only makes you more stressed.  Focus on what you are doing and nothing else.  When you are finished, or the time is up for that task, move on to something else, and forget about it. 
  •  Take deep breaths when you feel stressed.  Put the task away for a moment and do something else.  Go back to the previous task when you are ready.
  •  Don’t go it alone.  You can find help in many places.  Enlist the help of another job searcher and share your thoughts.  Find a job search group near you that offers a question and answer session.  Hire a professional career coach help you know what to do and how to do it.  A professional career coach will outline a strategy that is tailored for your needs and wants. 

 The job search is stressful.  But there are ways to work smarter not harder.  You have enough stress in your life without letting your job search get the best of you.  To your success!

 

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Over stressed is good for your job search.

Is There One Best Way To Get A Job?

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Many choices make the job difficult

Finding a job today is like trying to hit a moving target.  The rules keep changing.  Companies have different policies and procedures.  Everyone has the secret, and each secret is different.  Without consistency, what’s a job searcher to do?

Today, job searchers must understand the status of the job search at this moment, and keep up with the latest strategies.   Most importantly, they should know is there is more than one way to get a job.  With all the options available, job searchers should understand their field, the companies, and their needs to know what strategies to use and when.  If a job searcher can adapt his/her job search strategies as needed, he/she will be successful.

Job searchers have to know their industry to decide what is right.  One woman I know worked in human resources for many years.  She often said that the different functions of the company had different expectations for their candidates.  Whether it was the résumé or the interview, each function had its own style based on the people in the function. 

I find it interesting that if you ask different human resource professionals to give you what they like in resumes is different.  The look and style don’t seem to matter as much as being able to find the information they are looking for quickly and easily. 

I invited several human resource people to a networking group I facilitate to answer questions from job searchers.  They didn’t have one constant requirement for resumes.  Each one had a different preference, which is why I say job search is like trying to hit a moving target.

As a career coach, I hear the different ways people have landed jobs.  Some tell me they followed the “rules”, others tell me they thought out of the box, and there are those who combined the two.  What I hope you get from this post is that there is more than one way to get a job.  Learn as much as you can about each method so you will be able to choose the best options for you and your job search.  Be open and aware because there are many best ways to get a job.  Good Luck!!

 

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What You Want Your Spouse to Know About Your Job Search

Looking toward the future together.

Looking toward the future together.

My last post talked about the importance of communication in your job search.  Keeping your spouse in the loop will ease some stress.  Today, I would like to talk to your spouse about how to treat you in your job search.  I have heard many job searchers express these are things their spouse knew, and I am sharing them here with you. 

Hi spouse of a job searcher,

Your spouse is looking for a job.  It’s stressful for both of you.  You are both worried about finances and how long will it take to get a job.  Your spouse is spending a great deal of time looking for a job and maybe not available as they once were.  He/She is attending all sorts of networking events, and it seems like having coffee with just about everyone on the planet. 

Well I can tell you that he/she is looking for a job.  Today’s job search isn’t about reading the Sunday paper and sending resumes to companies that have a job ad.  It is said that over 80% of all jobs are obtained by networking.

When you come home and ask what he/she did all day only makes them feel worse than they already feel.  Believe me he/she has been working.  Finding a job takes time for most people.  The stories you hear about people getting jobs quickly don’t happen to everyone.

The job posting you found online, in a newspaper, or heard from a friend may not be what you spouse is looking for.  Yes, it’s a job with a paycheck, but work satisfaction has to be part of the mix.  Being unhappy at a job can happen at any time, but you don’t want to go into a job knowing it isn’t what you want.  Just because your spouse can do the work, doesn’t mean the hiring manager will think so.  Now there are many applicants for each job.  The people who get a job are qualified and have many years of experience.  Being turned down for a job is demeaning even if you don’t want the job. 

Wait until you are asked to offer advice.  Telling your spouse you should be doing this or that only complicates the job search.  The job search,today,is different.  What was popular a few years ago may not be acceptable now.  Rather, encourage your spouse to learn the latest strategies from a professional or at a career center.  Have a conversation with your spouse and let him/her know what you are willing and able to do when they ask for it.  When he/she asks, do whatever you can. 

Be genuine in your positive reinforcement.  Your spouse has known you long enough to know when you are forcing the encouragement.  If it isn’t genuine, it condescending. Continue to show your spouse why you love them.  Urge them to take time away from the job search to have fun as a family, with friends and alone with you. 

You know your spouse better than anyone.  Watch their behavior, if you see signs of depression more than just sadness, help them seek professional help. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this.  The job search is a difficult time.  But you have weathered many storms and each time you came through stronger, and this will be the case if talk honestly with your spouse about your expectations and listen to his/hers.  You love your job searcher and he/she loves you.   Treat each other with kindness and compassion through this difficult time together.

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My Husband and My Job Search

After 32 years and many ups and downs.

After 32 years and many ups and downs.

The other day I met a couple of job searchers for coffee.  http://portageparkdistrict.org We talked about many things including the job search.  And inevitably the subject of how their spouses are handling their job search.  It was interesting that both shared the same feelings.   

When I was job searching, my husband would tell me that there was a job here or there.  But the problem was I wasn’t interested in doing that type of work.  He didn’t understand that I didn’t want just any job; I wanted one that I was qualified for and interest in.  My husband has had the same job since 1983.  He got it right after he finished his advanced degree.  

I bet it does.  I hear it many times from job searchers.,  Their spouse just doesn’t understand.  But in defense of the spouse they are, also, experiencing stress.  They are looking at the financial situation and are fearful.  They see you working hard at looking for a job and see the strain on you.  You may not be your usual self and are walking on eggshells around you.  It’s understandable. 

Your relationship has undergone many ups and downs and will continue to do so.  Communication is the key.  When I am stressed, I go inside myself and don’t communicate.  My husband was trying his best be supportive, and he knew I really wanted a job.  But I didn’t let him know what I was looking for specifically.   He was trying to end my search, stress and frustration.  But because I didn’t communicate what I needed, he added to it. 

I felt as though he was pressuring me to get a job.  I felt I had to get a job ASAP, which made my job search stressful and making me feel desperate.  After, I told him what I wanted and needed to do, he stopped finding the perfect job for me.  After the communication opened up, and I was less stressed, I found a job. 

If you are in a job search and have a spouse, communication is the key.  I suggest you talk about all the issues surrounding your job search.  It made things better for me when I opened up. 

Is relocation an option?  If the answer is yes, know where you spouse is willing to go and not willing to go. 

How will a different shift affect the family?  Especially if children are involved, you must decide how to divide up the transportation.  Chores are another consideration.  Your relationship needs nurturing, how and when will spend time together is something else to think about.

Money is crucial no one wants less, but it may happenHow much of a cut can you take?  Will you spouse be able to contribute more income and how?

Whether you are unemployed and looking for a job or already employed but looking to change jobs, job searching is stressful for both of you.  Keep your lines of communication open.

My next post will be things you want your spouse to know about your job search.  Things I will mention include: unsolicited advice, criticism and job openings.

 

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What the IRS Wants Job Searchers to Know

Income tax information for job searchers.

Income tax information for job searchers.

It’s getting to be that time.  Each year every citizen in the United States is required to report to the IRS http://siedc.org/wp/ their taxable earned income.  The IRS will be looking forward to hearing from you on or before April 15.  Are you ready?  Do you have all your documents?  And more importantly do you know what you can job search expenses you can deduct? 

The following was taken from:  http://www.irs.gov/uac/Newsroom/Job-Search-Expenses-May-Lower-Your-Taxes

Job Search Expenses May Lower Your Taxes

IRS Summertime Tax Tip 2013-03, July 8, 2013

Summer is often a time when people make major life decisions. Common events include buying a home, getting married or changing jobs. If you’re looking for a new job in your same line of work, you may be able to claim a tax deduction for some of your job hunting expenses.

Here are seven things the IRS wants you to know about deducting these costs:

  1. Your expenses must be for a job search in your current occupation. You may not deduct expenses related to a search for a job in a new occupation. If your employer or another party reimburses you for an expense, you may not deduct it.
  2. You can deduct employment and job placement agency fees you pay while looking for a job.
  3. You can deduct the cost of preparing and mailing copies of your résumé to prospective employers.  
  4. If you travel to look for a new job, you may be able to deduct your travel expenses. However, you can only deduct them if the trip is primarily to look for a new job.
  5. You can’t deduct job search expenses if there was a substantial break between the end of your last job and the time you began looking for a new one.
  6. You can’t deduct job search expenses if you’re looking for a job for the first time.
  7. You usually will claim job search expenses as a miscellaneous itemized deduction. You can deduct only the amount of your total miscellaneous deductions that exceed two percent of your adjusted gross income.

For more information, see Publication 529, Miscellaneous Deductions. This booklet is available on IRS.gov or by calling 800-TAX-FORM (800-829-3676).

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