Why I Stayed in a Job I Hated

You don't need to stay stuck in a job you hate.

You don’t need to stay stuck in a job you hate.

I stayed in a job I hated because I didn’t think I could do any better. I didn’t know that each day I was there my confidence and esteem were draining away.   I didn’t know that I could enjoy my job.

One of my biggest fears was the money. I feared I wouldn’t find a job I like making the money I was. Another fear I had was I would end up in another job that turned out to be as bad as the one I was in. And finally, I worried that I wouldn’t be able to find another job.

Since I thought I was unable to leave, I hoped the situation would improve. But I didn’t know that my fate was up to me. I had to either speak up or leave.   I waited in silence getting more and more frustrated and stressed. Finally, my body made the decision for me.

My body had had enough and it let me know it. The stomach upsets and headaches became unbearable. Now I knew it was time to go. So I quit. My health was more important than my concerns about another job. It was more important than the money or finding a job that I would love.

Something amazing happened. I not only started feeling better, but I felt happier. Sundays were enjoyable because I was dreading Monday morning.   No more feeling like I wanted to cry on the way to work. And I learned something important. I will never stay in a job I hate. Life is too short and I have options.

Not only will I not stay in a job I hate, I won’t let anyone else. It has become my mission to help people find jobs they love and get paid what they are worth. No one has to be miserable because of a job.

You can deal with anything if you have your health. Everyone has bad days at work but when every day is a bad day and your job starts interfering with your life and health, staying isn’t the best option. Your body will only take so much stress then it will say enough. I was lucky; nothing serious resulted from staying in a job I hated. Others are not so lucky; severe and/or life-threatening illnesses can result.

I learned a valuable lesson. I am more important than any job and YOU are too.

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Is Your Job Making You Sick?

Don't ignore your health

Don’t ignore your health

Is your body trying to tell you something about your job? It is if you experience recurring headaches, stomach upset, heart disease, anxiety and depression. Your body is the best indicator of your toxic job and it’s best to listen.

Of course, not all the above ailments can be attributed to your toxic job, some maybe from pre-existing conditions or other factors in your life. But if you have these symptoms and no other issues, they may be the result of your toxic job.

Cortisol is a hormone in your body that has many benefits. One is that is responsible for protecting you from harm. It is released during flight or fight situations. When used properly, cortisol will give you what you need to be able to deal with danger. However, if you are stressed due to your job, chances are you don’t have to make life or death decisions.

During periods of stress, cortisol is released and it is assumed that your body will recover from a temporary danger at which point your natural body relaxation response will take over to prevent the release of cortisol. If you are in a constant state of stress, cortisol is released continuously. But your body doesn’t need the cortisol and so it starts attacking your healthy body.

The increased cortisol effects:

  • blood pressure
  • immunity
  • bone density
  • blood glucose
  • cognitive performance
  • thyroid
  • cholesterol
  • body fat
  • heart
  • joints
  • breathing
  • digestion

The level of cortisol in your body can be controlled. You have two choices. One is manage your stress using relaxation techniques such as exercising, yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, hypnosis and many others. The other is removing the stressor by finding the source of your anxiety by: changing departments or duties, reducing your hours, transferring to a new location or get out of the situation altogether. Another words, leave your job and find another.

Whatever you decide to do, you must do it. You are not meant to live in high levels of stress. There are some situations you cannot control, but the ones you can control, you owe it to yourself.

 

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Why do so many people hate their jobs?

70 to 80% of Americans hate their job.

70 to 80% of Americans hate their job.

It’s a well-known fact that many people hate their jobs. In fact, you may be one of them or know someone who does. But the real question is why and why do they stay. For the purpose of this post, I will only address why. Another post will address why they stay.

Basically, there are three reasons why people hate their jobs. The answer is the work, the people, and/or the work environment. Pretty broad categories to be sure; however, this is what I am hearing.

Let’s look at the first reason—the work. The work includes the tasks needed to be done to do the work, the industry and they type of work. Some people do work they don’t like because it is someone else’s agenda. Think of family run businesses that expect the children of the owners or relatives to work in the business. Sometimes, it’s work that is not of interest to the next generation. Whether it’s a legal, medical, retail, plumbing, electrical or some other business not every child wants to relive the experience in the business as an adult.

Boredom in a job that has no challenge causes some people to hate their job along with working long hours, doing the jobs of others who have left with unrealistic deadlines and doing a job because it is the only one they could get at the time.

Another reason is the environment. The environment includes the location and condition of the building. Safety, comfort, lighting, temperature and air quality cause some to hate their jobs. The corporate culture that determines the policies and procedures causes dislike for a job.

It’s hard to imagine a forest ranger sitting inside a building all day or an accountant hiking through a forest marking trees. Indoors people would feel terrible in the outdoors and vice versa. People who like to move around would go crazy sitting at a customer service terminal all day.

The job environment must match the individuals’ style for the worker to be happy. I know plenty of people who say they would hate being in a position where their hands were dirty most of the time. Corporate culture that requires certain dress codes prevents some people from freely expressing their personalities is shunned by some. Maybe you will only work for companies that have coffee stations every 500 feet and an in-house gym.

The last reason is the people. From what I have read and heard this is the most popular. They hate their boss, or manager either immediately above them or further up the ladder. Or maybe their co-workers, the customers, the vendors, or anyone they come in contact with. People have different personalities and not everyone can or want to get along with everyone.

Some complain about micro-managing bosses while others complain they can’t get any direction from their boss. The person sitting next to you could drive you crazy and you just can’t take it anymore. Maybe you had a romantic relationship with a co-worker and the relationship is over. Or you may have lost creditability with your boss or co-workers. For whatever reasons, people are the hot buttons that can really put people over the edge.

You are probably wondering why money isn’t on the list. It’s because money is entirely different piece of the equation. People are willing to stick around and put up with the above mentioned items if the money is good for a while, but at some point the money loses its’ importance. I hate this job but I stay because of the money becomes there is no money in the world worth putting up with this.

It is estimated that somewhere between 70 to 80% of Americans hate their job. These results in lost revenue are due to increased illness and lack of productivity. It’s a catch 22 situation for employees and employers alike. Things can’t get fixed because of lack of income and the things that will help workers can’t get done causing more dissatisfaction. And the cycle continues.

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How much do you love your boss?

i love my bossMany people hate their bosses. It’s not uncommon for people to dread going to work every day because of their boss. I had a few jobs like that. I quit all of them. One was so bad; I had to listen to a particular song all the way to work.

There is a group of people, a large group, about 25,000 who love their boss. They love him enough to put their own jobs on the life for him. In fact, several people lost their jobs over their support for this man.

This man is Arthur T. Demoulas. His employees work at Market Basket, a 71-store grocery store chain in Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Maine.

You see Arthur T. loves his employees and customers. He treats his employees like family. Arthur T. has been known to attend funerals and weddings of his employees. Not just the people in the corporate headquarters, but people who work in the grocery stores as cashiers, baggers, and department workers.

His compassionate nature has benefitted employees who are ill or who have sick family members by allowing them to be with their loved ones and paying their wages while they are out. He has been known to call his employees personally to check on them. You can be sure these employee’s come back to work with a renewed loyalty to the man and his company.

Arthur T. keeps his customers loyal by offering quality products at lower prices than his competitors. This loyalty is being paid back to him in the form of a boycott of the Market Basket stores and a petition on his behalf.

His business model is very successful. The chain had no debt while he was in charge. The goal of most corporations (and individuals). Expansion occurred under his watchful eye resulting in about $4 billion in revenue in 2012.

So why are people supporting Arthur T and signing petitions? He was voted out of office by his cousin Arthur S. Demoulas, who owns 51% of the privately held company. Unlike Arthur T., Arthur S. doesn’t work at the company but instead is the principal of a Boston-based business. But about $80 million in weekly revenue; employee satisfaction and customer loyalty doesn’t matter to Arthur S. He wants to change the business model to make more and be in debt.

So I ask you again, would you risk your job to support the reinstatement of a man who brought you profit-sharing, care and concern for you, your family and the community? I think it would be an honor and a privilege to work for a man who has the best interests of his employees, customers and corporation on his to do list. And he does it—not just in words, but in actions.

Additional information

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The current list is the 2013 list.  The list used to be published every year since 2002.  But in 2010 and 2012 no list was published.  If a list for 2014 comes out, you can be sure I will put it here.   Past winners can be found at:  http://www.aarp.org/work/employee-benefits/info-09-2009/past_best_employer_winners.html

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