Arleen Bradley Career Coaching

I don’t have to tell anyone that a long unemployed job search is stressful, especially if you are in the middle of such a search.  Many people lose their sense of humor and forget how to laugh and enjoy life.  It’s a case of which came first the chicken or the egg.  Did you become sad because of the long job search or is the job search long because you are sad.

If you are sad, stressed and desperate your job search is going to be more difficult and longer.  People shy away from helping you when you have this mindset.  They don’t want their name attached so someone in your condition.  It wouldn’t look good for them. 

 What’s a job searcher to do?  Don’t worry, be happy.  Easier said than done.  But it can be done and for very little money. One way is to watch the funniest movie you have ever seen.   Most public libraries carry DVDs that you can borrow for free.  Surround yourself with people you enjoy.  Invite them over for a pot luck dinner.  Every one brings something for the mea. After the meal, you can play charades, cards or do something fun.  The point is to laugh and enjoy yourself.

 While you are still relaxed and happy after doing things you enjoy, start thinking positive.  It will be easier to begin when you are less stressed.  You will be more receptive and open to  the possibilities that are available to you.  First end your negative self-talk.  Saying things like, “I’ll never get a job” will make sure you don’t.  When you have these negative thoughts, change them to a positive thought like, “I am going to be getting a job” or “there are jobs are for me.”

 These are positive affirmations.  You can create your own or find already made affirmations on the internet.  By searching for positive affirmations for a job search, you will come up with many websites where you can choose the best affirmations for you.  Print your favorite affirmations out and put them were you can see them often during the day:  on the refrigerator, bathroom mirror and near your computer.  Say them often and believe they are true and you will start seeing positive results.

 Doing so won’t change your situation immediately but it may get you a job quicker.  When people see that you are energized and enthusiastic, they will recommend you.  So smile, have fun even if you don’t feel like it.  Fake it until you make it.